Dating Tips

After you have chosen a dating service (or two) you will need to set up a profile.

It may seem like writing your profile could be stressful work.  It doesn’t have to be.  In fact, it can be a lot of fun.  We’ve put together a bunch of tips and advice to help you on your way.

However, if there is one piece of advice we want you to take away in writing your profile it is this:

• Don’t over-think it!

  • Don’t freak out or over-think everything on your profile! Not everything has to be super-witty, funny, sexy, or deeply intelligent.  Don’t be the guy or girl who is trying too hard to be liked.
  • One of the common mistakes some online daters have is thinking that they have to come up with the wittiest and most profound profile.  This often prevents them from getting into the game because they think that everything on their profile has to be perfect.
  • This is not like a job resume. We would much rather you spend your time meeting and connecting with other people than worrying about what’s on your profile.

To begin, we would recommend just putting up a picture and a few facts about you.  As you spend more time online and get more comfortable with the dating site, you can begin to fill in your profile.  Not worrying about the perfection of your own profile initially will help you do your own research into what sparks your interest in other people’s profiles.  You can then fill in the blanks as you get a handle on how the dating site works.

As you do so, there are some things to keep in mind that might help your profile and time online become more effective.

• Know who you are.

  • What are your interests, your passions? What would you do on your “perfect” day?  Night?  Weekend?  The better you know yourself, the better you can let others know who you are.
  • Answer and post things on your profile honestly. You are much more likely to meet someone who you can meaningfully connect with if you are just open about yourself.  You are great who you are.  Don’t pretend to be someone else.
  • Be open about yourself- but don’t reveal everything. You don’t have to put out your full autobiography.  First, a little bit of mystery is a good thing.  Second, you probably wouldn’t want to read pages upon pages someone else wrote about themselves.  Others probably feel the same.

• Know what you are looking for.

  • What kind of person are you looking for? What kind of connection?  Make sure your profile reflects what kind of relationship you are looking for.  Your profile can go a long ways towards attracting the kind of people and connections you want.
  • If you can look at your own profile the way you look at others, it might help you gain a little perspective.

• Post a picture.

  • Always. Profiles with pictures are incredibly more likely to be searched than those without.  The kinds of pictures you post are entirely up to you, but keep in mind who you are and what you are looking for.